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Why spend 13 minutes listening to him when we could read the questions to ourselves in just a few seconds and then consider them in our own time?

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Firstly, I just wanna say I thankyou so much for the support you are giving, having 2 autistic nephews and a son that is currently being assessed, autism is front and centre in my world. But having said that, I think you may need to tighten the definitions of your 7 (or really 8) signs, because according to this, I'M AUTISTIC AS FUCK! I'd hate for the "self diagnosis" mob to see this and start using this as an Autism checklist for their "quirky points"

Valuable post. Thank you.

Everyone wants to be autistic these days🤦🤦

Here in The Netherlands, I have heard someone get an asperger diagnosis passed 2013. I believe it was as late as between 2015 and 2018. From what I see around me, information on autism and how it presents can still be very limited for kids and adults in this country, though it does depend on where you live and who you happen to have as professional help/therapist, etc. I hope more information in Dutch within the community will change this more and more. On the other hand, it looks like the very controversial trend of ABA therapy from the US is actually picking up here instead of subsiding like it seems to do in (parts of?) America. I am also hoping this trend is temporary and won't reach the level it has in the USA. I prefer to see other therapies used. Please note that all my information in this comment is based on hearsay, or is anecdotal and/or personal opinion.

"It is strange to be known so universally and yet to be so lonely"-Albert Einstein. Totally relate.

Thank you so much for speaking so clearly. I totaly agree whith everything you said.

I have agoraphobia bc of abuse from ppl due to being an aspie. I'm exhausted just barely 5 minutes into this video. 😢😢😢

I'm fine thanks my brain 🧠 is perfect you don't disrespect me and I will be nice to you deal 👍

I usually felt like I was born in the wrong generation. That I was more like my parents' and grandparents' generations than my own.

My main problem is deffinetly connected to this And the fact that "I can't keep friendships" is really wore me down and I feel like a terrible person for notbeong someone who still have friends. And I feel like I can't really make friends anymore. I know it's not true but it's really gard to not feel like this.

This is one of the most sense-making ASD vs ADHD videos I've yet seen... and I've seen a few! Thanks again Paul, a modern Autism From The Inside classic. Also... add alexithymia to the mix and you might not know how dysregulated you're getting about the sensory stuff you're reacting to?

turns out I'm not autistic (official ADHD diagnosis)... I'm just stupid... to the question "think of a vegetable" my first thought was apple 😂 until I realized that I'm an idiot lololol

Please dont support the betterhelp scam..

All of these apply to everyone and you're obviously not autistic. Being slightly spastic doesn't constitute being disabled or separated into an entirely different category than everyone else. Almost everyone is a little spastic. Fake mental illness. The concept of the spectrum made it too broad meaningfully apply to anyone

Both harder and easier. I'm in my mid 60s and have just figured out the autism. Things are harder in that I'm seeing reality more clearly, understanding myself, seeing that many obstacles are simply not going to go away and that I have to figure out how to get through the next X decades. Easier in that I feel much more ok about saying no to social activities, I am less apologetic about myself, I can speak up for my needs, and I can look back at my life so far and understand so much more about what happened. I feel easier about things that I've always seen as failures; I don't blame my "weakness" or "lack of discipline" or other self criticisms that have haunted me. It's a great relief to see my puzzle pieces fitting together. It also makes me weep for all the difficulties that I couldn't understand at the time.

I pretty definitely am both. And the conflict is as fascinating as it is aggravating at times. Couple that with a co-occurrence rate of anywhere between 30 to 70% (50-70% according to a 2022 paper) and it's a highly interesting topic. Something is very similar, yet there also are lines and I hope to learn more about them in this video. But I think one can really start to ask the question "Is there one without the other?" Maybe a topic for later cause I feel that can quickly become a discussion about neurotypes and how we define "disorders." Add to that how the modern field of biology came to be (kudos to Alexander Avila and his recent video) and we are getting deep into the weeds. "Efficiency, reproduction of identical results becoming paramount and "diverging" neurotypes not fitting into this" is all I will say before I infodump.

"It's just in your head you just need to think differently and you will be alright" The other one is sweet from who sais it but it just doesn't help "You will be alright"

I'm really bad at things like politeness also. I mean, I know what I'm SUPPOSED to do, but it doesn't come naturally at all, even after all these years, and I forget things. I mean, it's just not important to me, so it is never at the front of my mind. So therefore, I am forever, 'rude'.....you know. someone might say as I'm walking away quickly, 'have a great day!' and then I'll suddenly whip around awkwardly, and like mumble, 'oh right, yes, you too.' lol. It never occurs to them, even after you explain it, that it's not being rude, it's just different for you. I don't understand to this day, why it matters at all to do all this stupid small talk. Goddess I hate it....and things like please, and thank you, or 'how was your day'. Why can't you just say what you mean, and so long as you mean well, then what difference does it bloody make?? It just all feels so forced, and insincere, that I have to make myself do these little things that matter to them so much. Just being a good person isn't enough for them, and it frustrates me. I mean, it's not for example, like I don't actually care how someone is doing, or never say nice things, because I do! But if I do something, it's going to be in a way that feels genuine for me. Not this stupid expectation that people seem to need to be prompted to do. Just like to say, Oh right, let's cross that one off the list. It never occurs to them also, that I might have needs of my own.

lol all of the above. I am always saying to people jokingly, because I know that if they thought I was serious about just how out of place I feel, they would think I was weird, but I say-- 'I feel like I'm part of an alien race that got left behind by mistake'. I have never felt like I was 'part of' anything, or any group. I always had this sort of clinical assessment of other people, and groups, ever since childhood. Always watching from the outside, and not knowing how they all just seem to do what they are doing, know what to do, and enjoy it also....And I spent many years wanting, and trying to fit in, not ever really enjoying anything, becoming very well at masking eventually, that I didn't even have a clue who I was, and it took AGES, only at this stage in my life, in my 40s, raising children alone, do I finally know, and accept well, me. Of course it didn't help that I also have a lifetime of no one ever believing me, including all my own family, and constantly gaslighting me for EVERY little thing. I ended up in abusive relationships, just doing what I thought I was 'supposed' to be doing....it was horrible. It's not great now either, but at least I know who I am. Hopefully, things will get better soon. Determined never to allow my kids to deal with what I had to.

Great response video. This comment mainly exists to feed the algorithm in the hope that it helps the video land on Hank's eyeballs at some point. I think he made his video in good faith and it was mostly a good step forward, like you said, but we can't let the conversation stop there when people are being hurt.

only ticked about 4 dozen or so.. shuffle a deck of cards, toss one out for each trait I have, and you have a neat and dynamic way of playing Blackjack..

Bro I am watching your videos to understand if my boyfriend has autism but I will end up realising I have 🤣

I think you are hiding it extremely well

I don't even like friends coming over because I'm afraid of being a bad host, somehow upsetting my guest, or showing a quirk or trait that I'm judged for.. but I think that last one is the biggest factor for me because my home is the one place I expect to be safe from beratement.. until I open the door to the internet at least..

Looking forward to this.

I can't help but notice some of these are characteristics of an introvert...someone who is socially or emotionally overstimulated and needs to retreat or decompress is typical of introverts

I feel exactly the same and I am 14. At school, I feel so weird like I am forced to just be myself. This sounds weird, but what I mean is that people know me as the quiet lonely kid, so I feel like change will never happen because if I ever changed, people would have reactions about my change and I fear what everybody will think about my change. My parents are pretty rude too. When I tell them that my school life is hard, they always tell me to just join groups or they just ignore me. I explain to them that joining groups will be super hard, but they always say it is simple and easy. They just never get it. I also feel that maybe after all these years, I built a weird version of myself at school. Being lonely, never talking, and worrying about what others will think of me every second. When I get home, I am completely different and I feel like I have more freedom and happiness. It's pretty weird to be happy when I get home because me and my siblings barely talk to eachother and I feel very lonely at home too. Also, my cousins barely talk to me too and it's kind of awkward talking to them even though I have seen them for years. I barely get to go places, and I am always on my bed at the weekends, same for the weekdays after school. I do try to create personal hobbies, but over time they just become so boring and repetitive like I am doing the same thing over again like a robot. Being lonely is not just having no friends or nobody to talk to, but it's about creating another version of yourself that you really aren't, and it's about thinking change in your life will never turn out well

I don't have many sensory issues in my opinion. What annoys me is when people think I do and start intentionally trying to annoy me with noises. It's not the noise that pisses me off, it's them trying to get under my skin that pisses me off. They want to disable me because I'm so outspoken and that gets under their skin. They can't handle it. 😏

YES!!! This is so on point !! 👍👌

Also, look into mercury detox and MTHFR gene mutation, because there are reasons the brain comes to have less capacity. And some of this can very much be corrected.

The thing I dislike the most, is that it’s normal to hate on people for being sensitive, well I would like to see any normal person in a super stressful situation not being sensitive, when all it takes is one person more, just pushing your buttons at just the wrong time, and that so called normal person flies off the handle. Are we to say to that person, oh you are just too sensitive. No one in their right mind would do that, but that is what it feels like every day for me, and I’m constantly being told not to be sensitive about the things that are bothering me. If they only knew, the world would be so much different.

Good insight so far. Overall, perhaps we all can exhibit forms of autism. Perhaps this is more talked about nowadays. We are using additional labels for people's behavior. Autism usually suggests impairment. We can be quick to label people.

Around 95% me for sure. I've got a grandson on the spectrum and maybe I should go get assessed?

Dang ! Are We ALL autistic ???

according to him...VERYBODY is autistic !

Have done everything I can socially and found it to all be a waste, for as soon as you stop doing the leg work. The relationship fails, it seems as an Aspie, people are accutley aware that they can take advantage of you and will. Currently I have no freinds and my family hates me (for vocalizing my requests of better treatment and no longer putting up with their lack of empathy).....it took a long time to get to a place of contement. But when it seems the majority of people let you down/ take advantage, it truly is better to be alone.

If I unmask I will get fired

Repressing your emotions too much is actually a good way to becoming "under-regulated" because trying to repress them simply means you don't know how to process them. I think the fact that my emotions were denied in this way may also be one of the causes of my alexithymia, which in turn makes me even less able to manage my emotions because I have a hard time identifying them in the first place, until they become overwhelming.

Is it autism or CPTSD? 1. "people are not safe" 4. May disassociate OR panic if too stressed, triggered and/or overstimulated. 5. Feeling different or weird, like peers can't understand? Kinda want to see a Venn diagram between Autism, ADHD and CPTSD.

Experiencing both pushing emotions down to regulate, until I can’t any longer, and its massively difficult and becomes a powder keg

The concept that autism and introversion strongly overlap is what kept me from a diagnosis until I was well into my 20's, because I was always an extrovert who got along great with everyone and had a natural drive and skill to be a leader. I had socially awkward moments, but that was just kind of attributed to my personality, and since I clearly wasn't bothered by being a bit weird I was never bullied and had no trouble attracting friends. I was also just intelligent and confident, so people didn't have a problem following my suggestions. Now that I'm older and more professional I've quieted down quite a bit, but I still enjoy the company of others and I attract social attention due to my career and lifestyle (which includes lots of very flashy animals and interests that some people think are desirable for morbid reasons), which doesn't bother me. I'm still hella autistic. 🤷‍♀️ I'm just a behaviorist by nature and now by profession. Monkey see, monkey study until observed behavior is innately understood, monkey do.

It's a super power.

I just got a 34. Before that, I had taken an IQ test a long time ago and was happy with the “gifted” label, which had given me some sense of validation. But this. This hits hard. I've just watched your video “Are you undiagnosed autistic?” and it hits home really hard. I've always felt so alone. I'm crying. I've always felt like I had a gaping hole in my heart because I felt so alone. Fortunately, my situation has improved a lot over the last 4 years, since I left home, but still. I have good relationships with my classmates, but friends? I never know if someone is a friend, if I can consider someone a friend. So for the longest time in my childhood, I considered myself friendless, since no one had explicitly told me that I was their friend. All this often comes back to me when I'm on vacation and I have nothing to do. I don't dare or think of contacting people without any justification. So outside of school, where I don't have to justify myself: I'm talking to you because I've just bumped into you. Sending messages and maintaining friendship is an obstacle. How do you maintain a friendship??? Please help me, I don't understand. I'm always wondering if I'm weird or not, or I always need to confirm that people don't hate me because I've done something wrong. As I said, everything has become a lot better since I left home and started to have my new friend group, but still, deep down there is a huge wound unhealed. I feel so alone, even tough there are people in my life. Friendship is a problem for me

Who else is ready to watch this video on repeat endlessly?🔄🔬

It took me years to get diagnosed with autism. I got told I didn’t have it because I’ve always been really confident and sociable and that you can’t have autism unless you’re shy and have social anxiety

As someone who's self diagnosed, no medical insurance so I can't get tested but I've done my research, this was refreshing and helped to add to my understanding of what's been bothering me my whole life. Thank you for how you responded to SciShow. Seeing everything in retrospect now after having watched both of these videos, I feel a little bit better about how my mind works and that hopefully soon more people will understand trying to be normal is weird.

An old teacher of mine once said the 1% of humanity is like the tip of the spear. It is what allows the whole spear to pierce and move forward past a barrier. However, it is unfortunately the weight of the very dull shaft that must be behind it to have any real effect.

You are so right! Thank you for sharing!